If you are inexperienced in the BDSM lifestyle, please find the host and let us know if you're negotiating a scene. We'd love to hear how your negotiations are going and may want to observe your first session and possibly offer suggestions.
Your physical and emotional well-being are paramount.
Before any BDSM activity, have a clear conversation with your partner(s) about your limits, desires, and "safe words."
Use safe words (like our Stop Light system: Red = Stop, Yellow = Slow Down, Green = Continue), set clear boundaries, and engage in aftercare to process your experiences and maintain a healthy mindset.
The foundation of BDSM is consent. Always ask for explicit permission before engaging in any activity and respect your partner's boundaries. "No" means no, and pushing someone past their limits is never okay.
BDSM can be intense! Be aware of your own limitations and communicate them openly. Disclose any medical conditions, hard limits and triggers beforehand as well.
The BDSM community is full of unique people. Be open-minded and respectful of others' preferences. If you see something that isn't your style, simply step away and find something else to enjoy.
We have a zero-tolerance policy for any non-consensual or abusive behavior.